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If you recall, not too long ago I blogged about the elusive Facebook poke and about what Poke-induced stress could lead to. Then, just the other day, I shared a study on my wall that claimed that the more Facebook friends you have, the larger your brain is. I immediately clicked to my profile to see how many friends I had! Whew! I was okay. But, I began to wonder about those people who jumped on the Facebook wagon late and just joined… had their brain not fully developed yet?
And then it started to dawn on me! Here I was, spending time out of my day pondering how the amount of Facebook friends was affecting mine and others’ brain size! Just like that, Facebook had become a stress magnet! I mean, we’ve all been there. I’m sure you’ve posted something and then wondered why no one ever commented. Or publicly made fun of something you meant to be serious. Or even worse, took something seriously that was meant to be a joke. Don’t get me into the stress of “to tag or not to tag someone” in a photo…
I began to wonder if anyone else had ever looked into the stress Facebook actually causes on people’s lives. Could one suffer from Facebook-related anxiety? Low and behold, a few inquisitive Scots from Edinburgh Napier University had already asked the very question: Do more Facebook friends cause more stress in your life? And indeed, uncovered these stats:
12 percent of respondents said that Facebook made them feel anxious. Of these, respondents had an average of 117 friends each. The remaining 88 percent of respondents, who said that Facebook did not make them feel anxious, had an average of 75 friends each.
63 percent delayed replying to friend requests.
32 percent said rejecting friend requests led to feelings of guilt and discomfort.
10 percent admitted disliking receiving friend requests.
So, what does all this mean?
Well, as much stress as Facebook may or may not cause, I think it’s safe to say, it’s not going anywhere.
So I say, embrace it. Post and comment away.
On second thought… I think I am starting to stress a little about posting this… hmmmm…
The Elusive Facebook Poke… what does it mean? I don’t know about you, but whenever I get poked, I’m confused. (Wow, even typing it feels kinda skeevy to me) Anyways… when that little FB notification ring chimes “You’ve been poked” I feel a little creeped out. And then to make matters worse, not only do I have to figure out what the person means by the poke, I have to weigh the implications of poking back. I consider myself a lady so I just don’t feel comfortable poking on command, but I also don’t want to come off as though I’m ignoring a simple hello!
So, today I said, enough is enough… It’s time to find some answers and see if maybe I’m just a little jaded. Am I the only one bothered by being poked out of the blue? So, my first thought was to seek out answers on the ever reliant Google… To my surprise, I found pages upon pages of inquiring minds asking the same question…
At first glance, it looked like the majority of sites claimed that poking is just pure, clean fun… that I should get over my feelings of creepiness… A poke is a simple nudge, a hey, what’s up, or I’m thinking of you gesture… But, still I think to myself, Well, why not just write me a message or post on my wall: “Hey, thinkin about you” “Hope you’re good” Why must you have to go and poke me? Especially if you’ve just met me!
But, upon further investigation I started finding confirmation that I wasn’t the only one weirded out by this FB phenomenon… Heck, a Tennessee woman was ARRESTED for poking another woman on FB! And word to the wise, if you befriend a Zimbabwean on FB, the slang “poke” means to have sex in Zimbabwe, so I’m just sayin!!
I suppose I find a bit of solace knowing that you cannot poke the same person twice unless they have returned your first poke or they’ve hidden it. Still… To poke or not to poke – That is the question.
I defer to my new boss, DC who has this sage advice – “Well if it’s the wrong poke from the wrong person, it can be unsettling. Or if its an unexpected poke, or uninvited even worse.”
I couldn’t agree more!
Natasha is the resident flamenco dancing fashionista and latest addition to the sales team at Pluto.